There are always many things that adults do not want to do. Like the courts, commuting in traffic or paying bills, but we have learned that there are rewards for those things to do and not do for to Consequences.
Kids do not always do the big picture of the way we do it. You've really care if their room is clean or if their homework done, it is sometimes necessary to help with incentives, they understand what is important and what you are creating a valueFamily.
Creating an effective incentive plan is a bit of creativity, ingenuity, and know a little bit "like". Fortunately, the "know-how" is fairly easy to find out. Here are the five keys to build an incentive plan that really works:
Key # 1: Know what you have for a child
There are two ways that children want to to have incentives. It is the one who wants to reward new and different all the time, and those who only like one thing, and it's easier to go with.Admittedly, this may shift and change with time, but by and large, most children will tend to one or the other camp.
For example, like my son is only one thing for the most part and that's "screen time" - video games, portable game systems or computer time is really all that he still desires. Using a token system does not work only because he wanted to use it for screen time anyway. So, I simplified both of our lives by 15 minutes screen time pieces as his "token". Why we do itmore complicated than it need be?
One of my clients has a child who is new and different rewards all the time wants. What did his mother, created a prize box. She puts in toys from the local dollar store that vouchers for special treats or favors, and even quarter for the purchase of balls in the supermarket. It also sets in toys, which she had to move from the floor for him. In other words, if he did not pick up toys, he later returned to earn it. ThisThe reward system keeps always developing and changing and, boy, he keeps his toys now lifted!
Woohoo!
Key # 2: Incentive plan should work like the real world
If you ever had a question in mind about a particular, how you want to create a plan, you will think about how incentives work in the real world.
A client came to me and complained that the incentive program they were with was not very good. It was a marble-token system where, if the child "does notsomething good, "she got a marble in the beautiful clear glass. If she has" something bad ", then a marble will be removed from the glass. When the jar was full, they would type one of the great purchase price.
Sound reasonable?
Heck no! What happens if all of the beads was removed from the glass? Can you spell power struggle? Ugh! Removing a reward worth having is a big mistake.
Think about the real world. Most people work for the favorite token money. In particular, they makeTo job, then pay for them. If you make a mistake your work, your boss does not remove money from your salary account. It is about a different kind of result you would like to clarify overtime to have the error, but the money you earned, you heard - period.
Key # 3: Use Time incentives as often as possible
Some of the best incentives are what I like to call "time-based" incentives - special times with Mom or Dad, or other important people in the life of your child.The nice thing about this kind of reward, that once the reward is paid disappeared. " Rewarded with the basis of an award, there is a feeling of satiety that happens. "I have the X-toys and there is nothing else that I want now." With time-based opportunities, they are volatile, and so easy to renew. You can chart a new behavior only start after you return from this trip to Safari Sam's, or the bike ride with Grandma. (More about the behavior charts at # 5)
Key 4: Give your child the language of love to inspireTheir incentives
Find your child's love language is a really effective way is to provide incentives to help your child feel loved and appreciated and motivated. Basically, The Five Love Languages are as follows:
Acts of service to help - someone to have to do errands or to do
Quality Time - One on One undivided attention
Words of Affirmation - spoke appreciation and recognition
Physical Touch - hug, hand in hand massage
Acceptance of gifts - Receiving of objects that showMaintenance and Knowledge
Home observe how your child's love and shows you that you can understand what they value. For example, it has to offer bring you flowers from the garden, go for a snack, offering free hugs and kisses, or say that you are the best mom or dad in the world? By using your child's first or second choice of the language of love will guide you, you can create a more meaningful and motivating incentives.
Key # 5: Find fun resources to reviveThings a little
With a chart to follow can enjoy your child's progress, behavior contribute much to this process. Charts do not have to be boring Sticker charts. You can make a game out of it. Create a coloring page or a word search, it is only if they do not add the desired behavior. Try to have fun with it.
I hope you find these ideas helpful on incentive schemes. Incentives are only part of a comprehensive education plan, but definitely a fun and motivatingPart.
The development of an effective Parenting Plan, you can relax and enjoy your child again.
Now go hug the munchkins, you do not have an incentive to do so!
